Here’s a great New Yorker piece on the ins and outs of online dating. The author brings up an interesting point about modern love:
“If your herd is larger, your top choice is likely to be better, in theory, anyway. This can cause problems. When there is something better out there, you can’t help trying to find it. You fall prey to the tyranny of choice—the idea that people, when faced with too many options, find it harder to make a selection. If you are trying to choose a boyfriend out of a herd of thousands, you may choose none of them. Or you see someone until someone better comes along. The term for this is “trading up.” It can lead you to think that your opportunities are virtually infinite, and therefore to question what you have. It can turn people into products.”
Sounds like my current job search (minus all the choices).
… which can’t be good for relationships.
Check out the full article: http://www.newyorker.com/reporting/2011/07/04/110704fa_fact_paumgarten#ixzz1Rd48rmCK
Jul 9, 2011